Wednesday, 23 May 2012

How To Stop Breaking Promises

Hello peeps! are you the one whose always give hopes and promises to someone?? hmm...  promises can be confusing's very easy to make a promise, but sometimes not so easy to keep it. However, the person you've made the promise to is relying on you to keep your, if you're having trouble keeping your promises, then worry no further : below are the steps "how to stop breaking promises" keep reading guys.. :)

Step 1: Think before you speak : This is a difficult thing to do for many people (including me), mainly because it sounds so simple but it is actually quite complicated. Sometimes you say something without thinking it trough properly. By the time you realize you shouldn't have said it, the person said it to has taken it seriously or is relying on it. To avoid this situation, and avoid making impossible promises, don't open your mouth if you haven't thought it through. 

Step 2: Think about the person you're talking to : If the person you make a promise to is in a vulnerable or hurt condition, then think very carefully about making a promise to them. People in this type of condition tend to take a promise to heart, and will gain hope from it. it will be bad idea to break a promise to them. if on the other hand, the person you've made a promise to is emotionally strong and independent, then you can relax a little. 

step 3: Consider what you can do and can't do : Sometimes we promise somebody something because we wish we could do it for them, not because we actually can. think about this very, very carefully. if you promise something, be sure that you will be able to fulfill it without a struggle or chance of failure. 

Step 4: Take your promise seriously : If you make a promise, think about it. consider what you can do, how you can fulfill it, and the impact it will have on people. (this step ties in with the first one), and is extremely important. if you don't take your promises seriously, and consider the consequences of them, you can end up breaking them or hurting other people.

Step 5: Make an effort : If the answer doesn't come to you immediately, don't just give up. do what you can to fulfill and keep your promise. this will ensure you keep your promises and gain trust from those close to you. the solution may not always be obvious, it's always there. 

TIPS : don't make a promise you know you can't keep. Try not to make too many promises at once, because they may clash with each other or become a struggle. Put effort into your promises - don't give up on them easily.